Don’t try to force yourself to immediately bounce back or pretend you’re okay. Give yourself time – a few days, not weeks – to wallow. Wear your comfy sweats, eat ice cream, watch Netflix, and just indulge your sadness.

But once those days have passed, make self-care your top priority. Get enough sleep, eat a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and spend time outside. Treat yourself to a massage, a bubble bath, or a brunch date with friends.

You might have urges to text, call, or e-mail your ex. But reaching out to them right after the break-up will only make you feel worse. Create a plan to distract yourself when that urge hits, and turn your phone off if you have to.

Don’t keep track of your ex from afar, either. Refreshing their Facebook page, checking for new Snaps, or scrolling through old Instagram photos will only make you feel worse. Unfollow or block them on all your social media platforms. Better yet, this is the perfect time to take a digital detox and free yourself of social media altogether.

While you’re grieving a break-up, writing in a journal can be cathartic. It helps you get your feelings out, put your thoughts into words, and reflect on what you’re going through. Even if you’re not someone who normally keeps a journal, this could be the time to start.

It’s only natural to want to talk about a recent break-up. Talking it through gives you a chance to vent, which can be useful in itself. It also helps you make sense of what you’re going through and process your feelings about it. Plus, knowing that you have friends or relatives to talk to will help you feel more supported and less alone.

Talking to someone about your break-up is a healthy way to cope with it. But posting about it publicly is not. Try to resist the urge to write Facebook or Instagram posts with all the gory details of the break-up or complaints about your ex. It will only reflect badly on you, and you’ll probably regret it later.

Dramatic “break-up haircuts” have become cliché, but the idea behind them can be helpful. Changing some small things in your life is a good way to encourage yourself to move on. Rearrange your furniture, try out some new recipes, or give yourself a mini-makeover.

Everyone processes break-ups differently, and what works for one person won’t work for everyone. But trying to be gentle with yourself and mindful about your actions will help you move on and leave you feeling more empowered.