This practice is so much more than just looking your partner in the eye. According to a study conducted by the London Science Museum, the average amount of time that people are most comfortable making eye contact for is just over 3 seconds. While practicing eye gazing, we can hold eye contact with our partner from 1 to 5 minutes. This practice allows us to come fully into the present moment, to focus on the person we are with as well as helping us to build more confidence, break down barriers and let go of judgements. Doing this while making love allows us to connect in a deeply vulnerable way.

When we make the conscious effort to breathe together while having sex, we are focusing on tuning in to that person’s body as well as our own. Taking the time to sync up the breath also causes us to slow down and fully feel all of the sensations that arise during the act of making love as it’s believed that this type of breathing awakens sensitive nerve endings that we may not otherwise feel. This allows us to experience more pleasure during sex while also building increased intimacy.

In modern society, it’s common to approach sex with a “goal oriented” mindset. We’re constantly pushed to be on the go and to rush through tasks for the sake of being “efficient”. This type of conditioning then spills over into our sex life and we may rush through the process with the goal of having an orgasm as quickly as possible. When we treat love making like an exploration rather than a task to be accomplished, we slow down and take our time. We don’t rush through foreplay or skip it all together, but instead allow ourselves to explore our partner’s body while they explore ours. This also allows us to find new ways that we like to experience pleasure and connect with our partner in ways that allow us to gently dissolve any blocks that might be getting in the way of a truly mutual and authentic experience.

By incorporating these practices into your love making, you and your partner can use sex as a tool to experience a whole new level of pleasure and to connect more deeply. This connection can foster and grow the trust you both need to expand into the next level of your relationship together.